January Reset Week One: NONSCALE VICTORY #newme23 Overall, it’s been a good week. But when I knew we were having guests over and that “homemade” pizza with homemade (regular wonderful bread) crust was the plan, I got nervous—because of both the desire to eat one of my favorite foods and the pressure of “not being able to participate” in the community aspect of making it together. The win was two-fold: 1) I proactively recognized the magnitude of the trigger: it was both “craving oriented” (I wanted to eat pizza!) and “emotionally oriented” (feeling like I would be missing out or appear rude to the others etc). This is a bad, bad combination: hungry for something you love AND feeling emotional pressure. But, *hours ahead of time*, I was able to “see” and anticipate what was coming. 2) And so I decided to create a plan to battle fire with fire! I pulled out one of my favorite steak cuts (skirt) in order to grill myself dinner. And I simply explained to the guests that I wouldn’t be helping with the pizza because of some dietary changes. Everyone was cool with it. We ended up having a great time. And I had a wonderful steak with some squash sautéed in olive oil. To summarize: the win was in being able to see—well ahead of time—the situation I was going to be in, and to be able to break that down and actually “name” the trigger/temptation, and to develop an action plan to combat it (rather than being ambushed by all of that temptation and pressure “in the moment.”) This kind of mindfulness is new behavior for me. I’m really grateful for this win.

Posted by SCA at 2023-01-08 15:14:58 UTC